Aki is one of those girls.
You will spot her immediately like a beacon, like a lighthouse by the sea on a pitch black night. She simply stands out. She just attracts attention effortlessly.
Sure she is good looking but that's not all there is to her. She exudes that star quality.
Did I also mention she lived in south America, is a kickass dancer and speaks multiple languages?
"Is she coming tonight? "
"Yes she will be here "
"Who will be here? "
"Aki. Aki will be here ".
Then the crowd goes into frenzy . The men start to check if their hair look OK.
"How many out of ten would you say Aki is? " I ask cheekily
"At least 8.5"
"9!!"
"The perfect 10!"
Everyone wanted her number and she was not shy to interact with members of the opposite gender.
When she showed up at a salsa venue she would get invited for dances all night long. The queue would get so long that her girlfriends benifitted from the spillover of the attention she was getting. Everybody dances more and everybody wins. Sweet.
I invited her to a language exchange event and all the guys swooned and gathered at her side. After it was over she said she wanted to go dancing.
"I want to go to the dancing place now. "
I looked at my watch, it really was late enough on a workday. Buy hey I'm not her mother.
I annouced that Aki was to go to for a second round and told everyone who was interested to follow our lead.
An army of men followed us to our regular salsa venue. Most of them didn't dance; Aki sportingly showed them how.
I met Aki on and off at our usual salsa place and other music festivals. She always glammed up and she always partied hard, real hard, with beautiful girlfriends and of course hordes of eligible men.
I made my opinion about her. She is a party girl. Actually I would go as far as to say she was sex and and city. Perhaps not a Samantha but at least a Carrie.
Girls just want to have fun. I don't judge. If I could command men's attention and compliance wherever I went why would I even consider settling down. Why would I get just one dish when I'm dining at a buffet restaurant?
Many months later I stumbled upon a photo showing Aki in a traditional Indian wedding dress.
My curiosity got the better of me and I dug further. It turned out Aki married an Indian guy in a whirlwind romance.
Last week I met up with our mutual friend. He was closer to Aki than me, in fact I got to know Aki through him.
"In the traditional Japanese society, girls in their late 20s face a lot of pressure to settle down. She was under a lot of this pressure. "
I cocked my head like a curious puppy which doesn't quite follow an instruction.
"She had always been very focussed on finding a husband. She only wanted marriage as she had no time to fool around. Her going to parties and night outs was just to meet the right man to marry. She wanted to do it at the earliest possible opportunity."
That's rather incredible stuff. I knead my eyebrows tightly. So I had been wrong all the time. All she wanted was a good, family man to settle down with as soon as possible. Sbe did it by partying as much as she could and by meeting as many men as she could.
She was no sex and the city after all. More like pride and prejudice, or sense and sensibility, and I was the bloody fool.